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Thursday, June 2, 2022

Thursday, June 2, 2022

    

  I got up a 4 am. I had to apply the antiseptic soap, leave it on for two minutes and then shower. Shivani was there shortly after I got up to help me apply it. She helped with the first application last night. I only applied the soap to the left side of my body then. I hoped it would be enough. This morning I washed my hair and did a full-body shower. Then I walked Elsa. It was still before 5 am when I got home. It was too early to feed her. Shivani would do it when she got up.

   

Lutz was in my driveway promptly at 5:05. He was born in Germany. When a German says 5:05, they mean 5:05. His son, Brian, was in the car, too; he was on the same flight. His destination was Thailand. He would be flying out of Honolulu, which was my last stop. Brian was sitting in the back seat, leaving the passenger seat for me. He had to get out and put the walker in the trunk.

 

Both Brian and I had our boarding passes on our phones. We went directly to the TSA entrance. The gate was still closed by 5:30, and there were cases of bottled drinks right behind the gate. We wait for a while, expecting someone to come and open up. Brian said, “This doesn’t look right.” He got up to check. While he was gone, a pilot walked past me. I asked him when TSA would open. It was no longer there.

   

Brian returned with the same information. We both went in search of the new area. Neither one of us had the vaguest idea where it was. The whole airport had been reconfigured. The boarding areas were different as well. I hadn’t been to the airport since the fall of 2019.

  

The flight over to Honolulu went smoothly. I went to the taxi area. I had a voucher from Kaiser for the fare. I got into a cab with my walker and directed the cabby to take me to Kaiser. It cost me $22. Before this, Mike had always taken care of transportation. I discovered that I had to call a particular company and wait until my name was called. That was the only company that accepted the Kaiser vouchers. I suspected the cabby knew he was taking advantage of my ignorance. It was the only down moment of the day.

   

The admission process was a breeze. Someone called yesterday to take care of most of the process. I went up to the surgery waiting room. I fell asleep while I was sitting there. I heard someone calling “Elizabeth” repeatedly. I wondered why they were saying it over and over. I finally roused. The preop nurse said she felt bad about waking me up.  

I told her she was lucky she roused me. No one calls me Elizabeth.

  

She walked me to the preop room. After wiping myself down with the antiseptic wipes, I had to change into a hospital gown, don their socks, and a surgical cap. The phone rang while I waited. Jean, my hanai sister, called to wish me well. The anesthetist came by to consult with me. I told him I slept for 14 hours after taking one Zanax. He said, “You’ll make our job easy.”  

  

The atmosphere in preop was terrific. The nurses all laughed with each other. It looked like a great place to work.

  

At 11:30, the nurse anesthetist, accompanied by someone else, wheeled me out of preop. I assume she dropped something in my IV because I was out before we got to the operating theater. He told me I would have a spinal block and a mild total anesthetic which would leave me awake and able to communicate. I asked if I would hear all the construction noises of orthopedic surgery. He said yes, but I wouldn’t care. I was out cold until I had been in postop for a while. The surgeon had already been by to check on me.

  

They wheeled me to a private room on the second floor. I mostly slept. The postop didn’t offer me crackers and juice, saying I would get a complete meal. The only thing I got was a liquid diet. Yuck! Tasteless chicken broth, shaved ice, and something else I can’t remember. All of it was unsatisfying.

    

The PT came by to get me on my feet and walking. I was too dizzy to stand. She would get back to me the next day. Since I couldn’t get up, I had a choice of a bedpan or a catheter. Neither sounded great. Then the nurse told me the catheter was external. Wow! Totally painless. A joy to use. I wondered why they didn’t use it with Mike. It had just become available sometime during the pandemic, long after Mike was gone.

  

I did some reading, but I watched TV news shows.   

Wednesday, June 1, 2022

 Wednesday, June 1, 2022

    My friend, Jean from Arizona, visited the island to see her daughter and grandkids. I got to see her the day after she arrived. She came to the house to meet Shivani and Sidney on her last day. Shivani was out, but Sidney was here. We hadn't been able to get together again. She was leaving later today. She had proposed meeting with me and Sidney at Kua Bay. I was too anxious about the upcoming surgery. I wanted to get some basic housekeeping done, washing my bedroom and bathroom floors. After washing them with antiseptic soap, I needed to prevent my feet from getting dirty when I  went to the bathroom at night.

   It was 3:30 before I remembered I wanted to go to the bank to cash a check and pick up extra salve from the vet for Elsa's skin lesions. I wanted to ensure that Shivani had enough should I go into rehab on Oahu. When I got to the bank, the parking lot was packed. That meant a long line with only half an hour left before the bank closed. I turned around and headed up the hill to get the salve from the vet.

  Alexandra was here again today. Sidney was fantastic again. He had a positive response to her from the get-go.

  I got some final paperwork in the mail to Damon, my POA, in case-of-my-death instructions, and a revision to the distribution of my trust to Raymond James.

  Sidney had been sick the other day with bug bites. He ran a temperature. Now, his nose was running. Shivani and I put on masks, and poor Sidney was told to stay away from me. He was still too young to understand that I wasn't rejecting him, just his germs. I had to stay healthy until after the surgery. If I had a cold, the surgery would be canceled. I was anxious to get it over with after wrestling with this problem for 13 years.    

    Shivani went out to pick up Chinese food for us tonight. Sidney wanted dessert for dinner without eating anything nutritious. Shivani held her ground with humor. I doubt I could have the patience she has. She is a wonderful calm loving mother.

  Isaac came over to visit. I wasn't in the mood for a lengthy conversation. He said he would sit with me while he wrote his final goodbyes to his students. He was leaving on Monday, the 6th. His year of volunteering in the small religious school was over. He wouldn't call it a wonderful experience, but it has been a year of growth.

   Before I went to bed, Shivani helped me apply the antiseptic soap. I passed on a full-body shower. I just rinsed off the soap after two minutes. I would take a shower in the morning. I scrubbed every nook and cranny of my body thoroughly.   

Thursday, June 2, 2022

Thursday, June 2, 2022        I got up a 4 am. I had to apply the antiseptic soap, leave it on for two minutes and then shower. Shivani was ...